Constance Wu recalls friend saving her on her 5th floor balcony, taking her to psychiatric ER

Constance Wu opens up about her suicide attempt in 2019 and the aftermath.
The Crazy Rich Asians and Hustlers actress appeared on Red Table Talk via Facebook Watch on Wednesday to discuss the shocking revelations in her book Making a Scene. These include being sexually harassed and intimated by a male Fresh Off the Boat producer and later facing backlash for tweeting her disappointment at the show's renewal for another season. Being "cancelled" for her tweets - with hate pouring down on her from many quarters, including the Asian American community - led to her suicide attempt.
In her deepest moment amid the backlash, Wu wrapped herself in a blanket and stood on the ledge of her fifth-story balcony overlooking her New York City street. As she pondered her fate, "a friend who came to check on her pulled me over - because I had climbed over the ledge".
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The friend "pulled" Wu "into the elevator, put me in a cab, and took me to a psychiatric emergency room" for life-saving mental health treatment.
"I slept under surveillance that night on a cot in the waiting room of the psychiatric emergency room," she said. The next morning she started counseling and then every day she started therapy with a psychiatrist and psychologist.
"I needed it. I was insecure at that point," she recalled. "I was in a mental place where I just beat myself up. And so much shame. I felt like I didn't deserve to live. I felt like the world hated me. I felt like I ruined everything for everyone. Maybe I did it for some people, but you know, people make mistakes, right?"
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Little did the public know when Wu posted those infamous tweets that she was claiming to have been sexually harassed by a Fresh Off the Boat producer. They just thought she was a "diva," "ungrateful," and that she thought she'd become "too good for the show" after the movie Crazy Rich Asians made her a hit.
"Of course, with the information that the public has had, I don't blame people for thinking that," she said. "What people didn't know was that during my first few years [the hit show lauded for its Asian presentation] I was sexually harassed and intimidated and threatened — all the time."
The Asian-American producer, who she did not identify, "was so derogatory and harassing toward me," and she was afraid to speak out, "because this show was sort of a beacon of representation for Asian Americans and I became a symbol of representation." . I didn't want to sully the one show with allegations of sexual harassment against the one Asian American man who does all this work to improve the community. So this is what happened when I was tweeting this stuff. It seemed out of character when you don't know me and don't know all the pain and abuse I've endured for years. The reason I'm crying now is because you have to be honest about how it happens so it doesn't come out after it [did it for me]."
She explained the sexual harassment and said the producer would tell her how he preferred her hair. Told her to wear short skirts. Judged her friends on whether or not he would "fuck" her. At night, he texted her asking for sexy selfies. "He kept an eye on all areas of my life," she said.
She felt "guilty" because she thought she somehow played a part in it. "This is my first big TV show ever," she said. Her mindset was, "I've got to pretend I'm part of the boys' club. I've got to pretend I'm cool with this conversation."
Constance Wu at Red Table Talk. (Photo: Jordan Fisher)
She also claims he touched her inappropriately. He urged her to go to a basketball game. He told her how to dress. There he rubbed her leg and placed his hand over her crotch. She told him to stop, which angered him and he ignored her in retaliation.
Wu spoke to a few people, but no one encouraged her to go to Human Resources, and she didn't think she would be believed without evidence. She said she now knows she should have reported it - because even if it hadn't helped her then, it would set a record and potentially help others in the future. She was eventually able to knock him out for the show's remaining three to four years.
The Season 5 finale of Fresh Off the Boat was written as a series finale. She said ABC gave her the blessing to pursue other projects. Then her movie Crash Rich Asians was a huge hit and the network decided to extend the show. It was "kind of a bad look to cancel an Asian-American sitcom," she said. Wu, who is still under contract and has to do Season 6, felt "lied to" and disappointed that she wouldn't get the "clean slate" I was looking forward to. In addition, she had to cancel planned projects.
So she tweeted what she now knows wasn't the right move, about her upset at the extension. She said the backlash was immediate and that it was particularly hurtful that Asian Americans "were the ones who piled on the most." The biggest sting was direct messages from a former colleague, an Asian actress, "who should have been my ally."
The messages accusing her of sullying the one bright spot of hope for Asian Americans hurt. This triggered her suicidal thoughts.
Wu spoke about messages she received from an Asian actress. (Red Table Talk)
After Wu's tweet backlash, she retired from social media for three years. She has not spoken publicly about her suicide attempt or hospitalization and has tried to keep a low profile. She recalled being "punished and taunted" immediately afterwards - recalling a story about attending a gala honoring Asian-American icons and changemakers in the entertainment industry in late 2019.
Fresh Off the Boat was honored at the event and there was so much controversy surrounding her that she initially declined to attend. Also, she was in a "raw place" and didn't want to be the target of ridicule. She expressed this and was told that she was loved and there would be "only warm energy and positive vibes" when she came. She said it was a decoy and switch.
"They put me in the front row and had all these cameras on me and within 10 minutes the show's host was hitting on me," she recalled. "I was sitting by myself trying not to cry in a public setting... They had promised they wouldn't mock me and they did it right away betraying the Asian American community." A few months earlier I was in the emergency room.”
She said the host - Simu Liu - "did the right thing and apologized. It was a sincere apology.”
Wu's book of essays is now out and also shares that she was sexually abused in her 20s.
If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call 911 or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to the Crisis Text Line at 741741.
Constance Wu gets emotional as she explains why she spoke out about sexual harassment on the set of Fresh Off the Boat
Constance Wu attended Late Night With Seth Meyers on Monday, where she discussed her new book of essays, Making a Scene. In the book, she revealed that her vulgar 2019 Twitter rant was actually the result of sexual harassment on her television series, Fresh Off the Boat, which had just been renewed. "To be honest, I didn't want to write about it," Wu said. "That was the last essay I wrote for the book, and only after my editor urged me, like, 'You should write about this. That's what people want to hear.” And I said, “I'm done with this chapter in my life.” In the book, she describes how an executive producer made her first two years on set miserable with his sexual advances. "You know, what I've learned is that bad feelings and abuse don't just go away because you want them to," Wu said. “It will come out somewhere. And that's why I think people didn't understand the context of those tweets.” Wu hopes she can help others by sharing her story. "I think it's important that we're curious and empathetic before we jump straight into judgment," she said. "Because when someone does something atypical for them, it usually means something is going on in their life."
Constance Wu
American actress (born 1982)

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