People Are Sharing Subtle Red Flags That Are Actually A Cry For Help, And It's Important And Eye-Opening

Recently, Reddit user u/IncessantlyBored asked, "What is a sign of a cry for help that isn't obvious to the average person?" I wrote a post about the fascinating, important examples of small behavioral changes in others that can be signs that something is wrong.
Author's Note: This post is about suicide.
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Here's what they shared:
1. "Anger is a sign — especially when someone isn't normally an 'angry person.' The problem is nobody likes angry people, so it's often not seen as a red flag."
2. “I used to work for a suicide prevention/crisis hotline and someone who goes from being very stressed and anxious to seemingly happy and carefree very quickly is a sign of very high suicidal thoughts someone is terminally depressed and eventually making a specific decision to end his own life - he often feels a euphoric sense of relief. Remember, if you are CONCERNED that someone might commit suicide, be pushy! Better someone you love be upset than dead."
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3. "A big flag is when someone seems to overreact to things a lot -- a hair-raising temper, or just really annoyed and overwhelmed by seemingly minor problems." My mom used to say, 'When someone overreacts to something, there are other things they're reacting to that you don't know about.'"
4. “My most important tell is my voice. It gets quieter and people have to ask me to say something. I don't always know until someone says something, but it always happens when I'm severely depressed."
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5. "When my depression gets worse, I usually shut up with my friends and don't see anyone. I lock myself up because I feel like shit."
6. “A red flag is when someone starts to give up very quickly when faced with obstacles. If someone gives up immediately after a setback instead of continuing to look for a solution, it can be a sign that they are either too overwhelmed or drained of energy to cope."
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7. "Saying 'I'm sorry' for everything or taking blame for things that shouldn't even be blamed."
8. "Reaching out to friends and being overly nice to them, both close and casual, hoping they'll reciprocate and eventually ask how they're doing, so when they open up it's not about not to be a burden, but because they were asked to do so."
9. "Giving away lots of personal possessions without wanting anything in return."
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10. "The person stops caring about their appearance and neglects their hygiene and grooming because in their head they're like, 'It doesn't matter, so why bother?'"
11. "Hard drinking when they normally don't."
12. "When someone is constantly busy and doesn't give themselves time to think. Even if someone gives up many basic things like cleaning or washing up because they can’t think of anything else than what bothers them.”
13. "Of interest. Gamer suddenly stopped playing? Gardener let his plants die? Social butterfly now hiding in a cave?"
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14. "Sleeping all day and not being interested."
15. "If someone has been clearly crying or has burst into tears without apparent provocation, even in a very public setting, it can be a sign that they are in too much pain to even hide it."
16. “Deliberately avoiding sad and difficult topics. Sometimes when a person is constantly feeling shitty, the last thing they want to do is vent more negativity when they are around people they enjoy being with. Often with friends/family, a brief escape can always make you feel awful, and addressing negative issues can ruin that sense of escape and make the depression feel endless and suffocating."
17. "Over-sharing and a lack of filter go hand-in-hand with depression."
18. "Sticking to objects or other non-human things is something I've noticed quite often in some people I know who have struggled with it."
The National Alliance on Mental Illness is 1-888-950-6264 (NAMI) and offers information and referral services; is a coalition of mental health professionals from more than 25 countries supporting efforts to reduce harm in therapy.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255. You can find more international suicide counseling centers at The Trevor Project, which provides suicide prevention help and resources for LGBTQ youth, is 1-866-488-7386. You can also TALK to 741741 for free, anonymous 24/7 crisis support in the US and UK from the Crisis Text Line.

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