Platonic partners share homes, beds and kids -- but there's no sex

Jay Guercio and Krystle Purificato are a gorgeous married couple who share a life and a child together — but their relationship isn't traditional.
Known as platonic partners, the couple's relationship is not centered around sexual attraction or physical intimacy, but rather a lifelong partnership.
"My best friend and I of 8 years got married, had an engagement ceremony, whatever you want to call it, but we did it because we wanted to raise kids together," said Guercio, who is now raising a foster son, Eddie. with purification.
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Last fall, Guercio and Purificato married and became each other's platonic spouses. The two had to grapple with what it meant to take their relationship from friends to wives.
PHOTO: Jay Guercio and Krystle Purificato shared their experience of entering into a platonic partnership on social media to help dispel the stigma against non-traditional relationships. (ABC News)
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“There is no one way to be married. You know, we have good communication. We have similar values. We have a type of partnership that works for both of us and will stand the test of time," Purificato said.
The likes of Purificato and Guercio have shared their experiences of being in a platonic partnership on social media platforms like TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram, helping to dispel the stigma against non-traditional relationships.
dr Logan Levkoff is an expert on sexuality and relationships. She said platonic partnerships can be for anyone, regardless of how they identify.
“Platonic partnerships have absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation. Everyone, regardless of sexual orientation, might want to be in a platonic relationship," Levkoff said. "The only difference between a platonic relationship and a traditional relationship is that there is no sexual intimacy in a platonic relationship."
Guercio said they mostly identify as "demisexual," which is a sexual orientation in which a person doesn't feel sexually attracted to someone until after they've formed an emotional bond with them, according to the Cleveland Clinic.
Purificato identifies as "grey sexual". “I use all pronouns. I'm gender specific, identifying as gray sexual, which means my attraction comes and goes. It's not as consistent as most people's," Purificato said.
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Despite their deeply loving and trusting bond, Guercio and Purificato have drawn criticism on social media. They said people often try to invalidate their relationship by calling it a lie.
"Some people have said, 'Your kids will be confused,'" Guercio said. And I'm like, 'How?' Our child is 17 years old. He sees nothing but love and two people who want to take care of him and are doing everything in their power to be able to."
April Lee and Renee Wong are another platonic Los Angeles couple who often face the same questions that plague their more than decade-long relationship.
"We were just classmates then we just spent a lot of time together but it became like a deep connection and we soon started calling each other like soul mates, twin flames," Lee said.
PHOTO: April Lee and Renee Wong are a platonic couple from Los Angeles. (ABC News)
The two were separated while attending college: Lee was in Los Angeles and Wong in Singapore. But half a world apart, they continued to be attracted to each other.
"We used to FaceTime when it was my morning and her night and vice versa, and we just wanted to spend all of our time together," Lee said.
After five years of long-distance travel, Wong flew from Singapore to Los Angeles to be with Lee. The two share an apartment, values ​​and a plan for their life together.
"We started saying, 'I want to be your partner when you go out and have a career. I want to be who you come home to when you come home from work,'" Lee said.
Both Wong and Lee describe themselves as demisexual and cite sexual orientation as a reason why a platonic partnership works for them on a daily basis. For example, Lee has started dating and said their platonic partnership eases the pressure of their romantic relationship.
"I'm dating someone right now and I'm crazy about them. However, I have no intention of making him my life partner in the future," Lee said. "And I think that's good for my romantic relationship because now all the pressure is off."
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dr Logan Levkoff said that all human connections are complicated and often don't work for everyone.
"This idea that there is a person out there, a magical person, who will fulfill all of your needs seems very counterintuitive to finding love," said Dr. Levkoff. "Some are familial, some are platonic, some are sexual and they all count and they all matter."
PHOTO: Jay Guercio and Krystle Purificato say they hope for a future where their partnership will not be questioned. (ABC News)
Like Guercio and Purificato, Wong and Lee hope for a future in which their partnership will not be questioned.
"It's been an amazing journey so far... It doesn't matter what we are. The question is: 'Are we happy?' Yes. So it's valid," Wong said.
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