Please Stop Calling What Jessica Mulroney Did To Sasha Exeter A “Disagreement”
The white privilege manifests itself in many different ways - in undeserved transportation, preferential treatment in a fancy shop, without fear for your life in dealing with the police, or in the discovery that there has been racism against blacks in the past two weeks just to name a few.
We are currently seeing how the white privilege plays out in real time with the coverage of Jessica Mulroney and Sasha Exeter.
We know this: Jessica Mulroney threatened Sasha Exeter. In the past two weeks, Mulroney, a 40-year-old stylist, TV personality and plentiful white woman, Exeter, also 40, a Black Toronto-based influencer, blogger, and single mother, has threatened multiple times. Late Wednesday evening, Exeter dropped an emotional 12-minute video that said Mulroney had “offended” a general call to action that she released after George Floyd's murder of the Black Lives Matter movement. Although Exeter didn't name anyone in her post, Mulroney assumed that it was about her (a side effect of living in extreme privileges, where your whole life thinks it's all about you).
"What happened next was a series of very problematic behaviors and antics that ultimately resulted in her writing me a threat," Exeter said in the video. The specific wording Mulroney used: "I have also spoken to companies and people about how you treated me unfairly. You think your voice is important and it is only important if you use it with kindness and without shame on people express who are just trying to learn. Good luck. " In other words, Mulroney threatened Exeter's livelihood. Imagine telling a black woman that her voice doesn't matter as people literally sing the opposite on the streets in protests against black racism around the world. The lack. Mulroney has publicly apologized three times since then and privately threatened to sue Exeter for defamation.
Imagine telling a black woman that her voice doesn't matter while people literally sing the opposite on the streets in protests against black racism around the world.
This immense portrayal of Amy Cooper's white privileges and tendencies has been classified by several media as a "strife". After Mulroney's Show I Do, Redo was pulled from CTV-Immobilien and rightly excluded from her appearances as a fashion expert at Cityline and Good Morning America. As a brewing specialist at Kleinfeld, the headlines were: "Bell Media pulls Jessica Mulroney series after argument with influencer" (Canadian Press) and "Jessica Mulroney of ABC, CTV canceled after blogger argument" (Vanity Fair).
Let us be very clear. Exeter and Mulroney did not "line up over white privileges," as the Telegraph put it, nor was it a "rift" or "private argument," as Fresh Daily described the attacks on Exeter. An Australian sales outlet said Mulroney was fired "for a racism dispute". I didn't know that bigotry was up for debate.
Words matter. Language is important. When referring to what Mulroney did as a "disagreement" or an "argument", the responsibility lies with Exeter, the victim. Several parties are involved in a “dispute”. An “argument” is when two people are hit. When Mulroney tried to withdraw in one of her many excuses, she said, "We had a disagreement and she got out of control." It downplayed what really happened. It paints the situation as a fight between friends. It doesn't sound like the heir to Brownstein's fortune, the wife of one of the most famous Canadian broadcasters (Jessica is married to Ben Mulroney) and a member of one of the country's most powerful conservative families (Ben is the son) of former Prime Minister Brian Mulroney) came for the Black woman's livelihood with less social capital and much less power.
Words matter. Language is important. When referring to what Mulroney did as a "disagreement" or an "argument", the responsibility lies with Exeter, the victim.
Exeter was the one who was threatened. She was the one who feared for her future and the future of her daughter in the middle of a global pandemic. Downplaying this offense also negates the damage Mulroney's racist behavior has inflicted not only on Exeter but also on her colleagues from CTV, Canadian Television Network (the network that carried Mulroney's Series I Do, Redo), which is currently transmitting on a national special work racism and her black friends, especially Meghan Markle.
Elaine Lui, editor-in-chief and face of LaineyGossip, who works with Mulroney's husband at etalk, wrote on her blog last week: "The cost of white privileges is blatant and insidious." She pointed out how traumatic this torture is for Exeter and her family, but also that “the wave effects continue beyond this immediate circle, as everyone who is professionally associated with Jessica Mulroney has had to deal with a mess, they were not directly involved in its creation. including other black women. "
That brings me to Markle, the other name that dominates the headlines about Mulrony's violations. In most of the stories about this story, Mulroney is referred to as "Meghan Markle's friend" because it is her job title, not a personal detail. Mulroney brought the Duchess of Sussex into this shit storm when she wrote: “I had a very public and personal experience with my closest friend, which focused on the race. It was deeply instructive. “Aside from the fact that this doesn't make sense, it's basically Mulroney's equivalent to I can't be racist, I have a black friend. Sure, Markle is why this story has garnered international attention and it is understandable that the club is mentioned, but by putting it at the center, as journalist Ishani Nath emphasized on Twitter, "it gives the impression that [Markle's] name is associated with this story is surprising that white women with black friends can also be "problematic". “I think that's exactly what Mulroney hoped for when she called her friend's name. She tried to use her relationship with Markle as protection against criticism and consequences for her actions. The white privilege Exeter proclaimed is precisely why Markle gets a setback online for something her white friend did.
We are in a unique cultural moment. A billing if you like. While coast-to-coast protests against black racism are raging, the people most affected by the black trauma pandemic are demanding a hearing. A few weeks ago, Exeter may not have had the courage to expose Mulroney's threats. As the fat blacks speak out against racist bosses in the media, white editors are disgraced and toxic jobs are exposed (Refinery29 is one of the many companies called for black racism and the unfair treatment of their racism black employees), a real change seems to be coming. The sashas of the world refuse to be silenced by the Jessica.
All that comforted me, a black woman who was also intimidated by whites who exercise their privilege. It gives me hope that Mulroney will lose gigs and that her attempt to defeat Exeter has failed. But I'm also skeptical that in Canada, where Mulroney's occasional racism is all too common, these ramifications will continue. The media has watered Mulroney's anti-black racism into an "argument". It is worth noting that none of the statements made by companies about the separation from Mulroney used or mentioned the word "racism", which it did. Mulroney has already put in place a plan to save her reputation, which includes asking black women to do the job for her (she offers black women, including Exeter, to take over her Instagram account to "share her experience" ). Her husband is still employed by one of Canada's largest media companies. Mulroney still has all the privileges and access to the world. And if you look at how the media reported the story, Mulroney seems to be another excuse for a redemption sheet. I hope I'm wrong.
I will leave you with Exeter's farewell words from her viral, internet shattering post: "Hopefully my voice will be heard by many and will help change things for the next generation and for my daughter Maxwell ... because I will be damned if my child ever does has to deal with this ignorance. "
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