Sorry, But I'm On The Internet's Side After Reading This Dad's Reasoning For Why He Feels Like He Should Have "A Morning Off" From Taking Care Of His Baby On The Weekends

If you are a parent, you know that raising a baby is HARD, especially when the baby is not on a predictable sleep cycle. And more often than not, in heterosexual relationships, it's the mother who loses the most sleep.
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Recently, Reddit user u/tireddad667 (or OP; for original poster) took this topic to the interwebs when he asked the subreddit Am I The Asshole if he was wrong in asking his wife if he had a "morning off" from the care your baby can have on weekends:
Let's get straight to that. Here are the details according to the OP:
“My wife and I have a 6 month old girl. She is mostly a stay at home mom. She works two half days a week and her sister takes care of the baby. I work full time and go to school every day of the week. We have always had an arrangement where she does the housework (cooking, cleaning and now babysitting) while I am happy to support her financially. Honestly, we're both living our dream lives, and my wife is doing an absolutely spectacular job taking care of me and our little one."
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“On the weekends we share the responsibility for the baby. We usually make sure that each of us has our own alone time to do what we want. However, our girl has suffered a bit of sleep regression and wakes up every two hours - since my wife is breastfeeding, she has always looked after the baby full-time overnight. She is a light sleeper and unfortunately has insomnia while I am a heavy sleeper and wouldn't wake up from the baby crying anyway."
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“Recently my wife asked me to wake up with the baby both days at the weekend so she could get an extra hour of sleep. The baby wakes up around 7 a.m., so I would dress it and take over that hour."
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"But sometimes I want to be the one who can sleep in an extra hour. I told her this, and she says that while she's happy to let me sleep during the day, she really needs that hour because she can't nap like I can. We had an argument about this and she said I was very insensitive knowing that she is very exhausted and can't sleep during the day and has trouble going back to sleep every time the baby wakes up but I'm also exhausted that the Work wears me out, school days are long, and sometimes I feel like the morning lesson, I don't want to spend my free time napping, I want to play video games and Calm Down."
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“I have mixed opinions about who is wrong here, or if anyone is wrong at all. [Am I the asshole] for asking for a free morning sleep?”
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People were quick to share their opinions in the comments, and the main consensus was that OP is indeed wrong and should fuck his wife sleep:
"If she does all the night duty because you don't wake up, then you get the morning duty when you wake up so she can catch up on her lost sleep that night. You want a morning off, give her a night."
—u/Solaris_0706
"She's up all night. She doesn't get breaks like you do during the week. She asks you to get up at 7 a.m. A set time. Go to bed earlier if that's a problem. She survives. I doubt she it does." to live their 'dream life' when this little request was so badly supported by you."
—u/DrMamaBear
Others weren't very happy with the fact that he seems to prioritize "video games" over the needs of his partner and child:
"I was this close [don't say the asshole] because new babies and sleep are hard, but then we got to 'video games'... No! You can't have both nights and mornings. And your video game time maybe I'll just have to suffer for a while."
—u/blosja
"There's nothing wrong with enjoying playing video games, but you shouldn't put it ahead of your spouse's literal well-being. Also, this is only a temporary phase, so it's not like he can't get back to his usual weekend routine once the baby gets a little older and starts sleeping through the nights again.
Sacrifices must be made when having a child. And it should be shouldered by both parents, not just one."
—u/lasting impression
And some criticized the fact that OP thinks he should be off the hook for supporting his wife "monetarily" while she deals with all the emotional work or raising their child:
“Not only does she work, she enables OP to work by providing childcare – free of charge – for their child that he would otherwise have to partially pay for. But no, he 'supports them financially'. She supports you."
—u/Pavlover2022
"I also don't understand how he supports her financially when she works two days a week AND is responsible for cooking and cleaning and taking care of the baby. My guy does a lot less than he should.”
—u/saucynoodlelover
"These guys act like they do soooo much when they have no idea what's standardly expected of all emotionally working women and work and be a flawless mom."
—u/celtic_thistle
Finally, someone who found himself in a similar situation to OP's wife shared that OP's behavior can definitely have consequences:
“I needed nighttime support from my partner when my child was a newborn. He didn't take it seriously, and it took more effort for me to wake him up to help than to just do it myself. I no longer felt like a human. The resentment never went away. We divorced when the child was 2. "
—u/BrightnessInvested
Personally, I think parenting should be an equal endeavor and that doesn't seem to be happening here. But what do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Note: Responses have been edited for length/clarity.
And for more dramatic stories - like the woman who asked to be moved because she was sitting next to a crying baby - click here.

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